Monday, May 25, 2009

Memorial Day

Always in my life, Memorial Day weekend says it's summer. The danger of frost is gone, you can finally plant your tomatoes and everything else in the garden, bring out the yard furniture, and from now on stay outside after work in short sleeves and it will still be light. (I don't know if Memorial Day is an American holiday or an International one? I know I should know...)
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It's been an easy-going leisurely lovely weekend. The best part of working is appreciating these long weekends when time lets you run the show for a change. Here's a glimpse of my comings and goings:
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If you don't know already, I am not a country girl. The three years I've lived here is the only time in my life I've been around farms and small towns. I took this picture on a major road leading to the area mall. Repeat: this is not a back road or a small road. Traffic including me just waited until this tractor turned into the Bison farm. The Bison farm? That's another story.
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On Saturday I began a writing workshop that has already proved to be wonderful. I will learn about the craft of writing memoir. It wasn't that long ago that I would say, "I'm becoming a writer." But now I say I am a writer. I'm proud of that.

This is where I bought my inpatients, petunias, and marigolds for the yard and garden. The sign is made from a window shutter. I thought that was pretty cool.
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Ms. Stella has begun to enjoy her yard, meaning that for the first time she lies in the backyard grass and falls asleep. I can't tell you how happy I am that this dog has a good life. I can't imagine what she's been through, and it totally pisses me off to think that she had to endure whatever it was. But that was then. This is now.
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I have a favorite cemetery three miles up the road. It's small and sweet. Today there are flags everywhere, including on most of the graves. I have a funny relationship with the American flag. The conservative right wingers in America tend to use the flag as a symbol of their patriotism, and like to imply that liberal leaning folks are somehow less patriotic. It puzzles me how the flag came to symbolize anything but the solidarity of a nation. So let me say clearly, here and now, this is the flag of the United States of America--my flag--and I appreciate all the freedoms and opportunities it stands for.

Not even a mile from the cemetery a little town called Haydenville has this library, along with a post office and one small cafe. This library is as small as it looks.
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If I have my boundary skills right, Haydenville also has this Unitarian church.
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I'm almost home when I look to my left and see this scene. I notice the yellow strip in the middle of the road and I think it will make a great photo. My eye saw it better than the camera, but I still like it.
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And finally, Memorial Day is a time to honor those who have died. I thought about doing a post, actually, on the people I've lost, but it made me too sad to think about it. Still, this is a day I think about my father. People called him "Red" because of his red hair. He was a mason and bricklayer who with his stepbrother owned D & I Construction. It was just the two of them and together I think they built thirty or more houses. My father was damn proud of that. Here he is with his beloved granddaughter, my Jessica. I know the print quality and lighting is terrible, but I want you to see how this crusty burly man put down his cement mixer and bricks to love and laugh with a child he adored. I miss you Dad, every day. You are the best.
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11 comments:

  1. Bison? Do tell!

    When we drove out to California sixteen years ago Brian would shout out "Bison!!" every time we'd see cows. To those of you reading this, Brian isn't my child, he's my husband.
    I know, same thing.

    I love Stella in the green, green grass.
    And I love the tiny library and the small but important cemetary who's caretaker took the time to put the flags there.

    And your dad and Jess. So sweet. He does look like a guy who didn't like housepainters. It's in his eyes. ;)

    I didn't recognize you in that photo. Where are your glasses? You look deep in thought. (Probably about how pissed you are at me right now.)

    I don't mind being behind tractors so much. They make me realize I could be using that time to chill out and be in the moment. Unless I'm running late which I nearly always am. Like right now!

    Nice day KJ. Well spent ;)

    xoxo
    Lo

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  2. I very much enjoyed reading about your weekend and seeing your photos.

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  3. lo, i am NOT pissed at you. how could i be when you took the time? it wasn't an easy read--that much is true, but i appreciated it and i love you. so there.

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  4. The thing I like about tractors is that they make one slow down...just slooowwww down. they ain't movin fast.

    Glad you wrote that about the flag. I have the same issues and love/hate relationship with the american flag - but a flag followed by a marching band will bring me to tears for some reason.

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  5. Yes! Summer!! And I thought about people I've lost this weekend, too, some to death others not. It's a good time to remember.

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  6. Great tribute to your father!

    You really live in a nice neighborhood!

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  7. What a great long weekend it was. You are a writer and you have the vision to take notice of the world around you.

    My map is up. (smile)

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  8. KJ...

    Wow..I love reading and looking at your pictures. How green it all is. I was just telling my husband that Memorial Day is my spring and summer start as you..We couldnt plant or pull lawn ornaments out till then, yard sales were galore that weekend(everyone doing spring cleaning). Stella looks adorable with ear like that laying in green green grass......You look perplexed ..Like ok why are you taking this damn picture lol...I am going to post a tribute to my dad next month on his birthday..I like old faded yellowing pictures.

    Smiles,
    Sonia ;)

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  9. Another lovely photo depiction of your surroundings kj. I adore travelling around your neighbourhood. And Stella looks perfectly content as it should be! Our Memorial Day (ANZAC Day) is in May so we've been there and done that for this year but it's always good to remember those fallen and those serving.

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  10. that was a lovely and beautiful post... not just because of the photos ( i couldn't see many of them) but i loved what you painted with words...

    a very memorial post on Memorial Day!

    i'm sure your father watches you and is proud of you... that old picture was so beautiful!

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  11. This is a beautiful post my friend. Stella looks soooooo happy and nice words and pictures, i love the picture of your dad and daughter and that library is adorable :)

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