Friday, January 21, 2011

KJ Babe’s Second Not Quite Annual S-E-X Survey

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This is usually at most a PG-13 proper blog.
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But not this time.
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I am posting this the second annual sex survey on my blog because I am curious. And because I prefer not to be prudish or reticent about sex. I think it’s a healthy, heady, and hearty part of life, and I giggle and sometimes blush at how closed I and most of us are about it.
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So please throw caution to the wind and participate in the following survey. You can answer anonymously if that works for you. And feel free to invite anyone else to stop by and participate too. The more responses, the more interesting, don't you think?
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I should probably offer a reward for the most interesting answers but I'm hoping it will be reward enough to see who does what when how and why. :) After all, aren't you curious too?
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Answer as many or as few questions as you want, however you want. The questions are numbered in case you want to copy-paste them into your comments.

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Gulp.
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Here goes:
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1. In an ideal world how many times a week would you want to have sex/make love (definition: some combination of foreplay and/or orgasm)
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2. How many partners have you had? Men, woman, or both?
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3. How often do you fantasize about having sex with someone who is unavailable or inappropriate ?
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4. How important would you rate sex at this point in your life?
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5. Do you find sex more or less important than you did 10 years ago?
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6. Do you like to be rough or sensual?
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7. Do you prefer to be with the opposite sex or the same sex?
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8. How often do you have sex?
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9. Is sex a priority for you?
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10.Have/Do you ever fake orgasm? Why?
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11. Do you prefer the lights on or off?

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12. How do you feel about one night stands and how many have you had?
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13. What's your favorite position?
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14. Where's your favorite place to have sex?

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15. Have you ever watched porn while having sex?
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16. How long do you usually foreplay?
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17. Do you like kissing during sex?

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18. Are you loud or quiet?
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19. Do you prefer your partner to be loud or quiet?

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20. How old were you when you lost your virginity?
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21. How many sexual partners have you had?
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22. When and where was your wildest sex ever?
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23. What's your ultimate sexual fantasy?
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24. During sex...what are you thinking about?
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25. How many positions do you enjoy during one episode?
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26. Do you ever worry if you are pleasing your partner?
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27. Could you live without sex?
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28. Do you find sex boring?
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29. How long does a typical sexual episode last for you?
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30. Have you ever had a 3-some? 4-some? 5-some?

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31. What's your biggest turn on?
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32. Do you ever have sex in the shower?
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33. What's the weirdest place you've ever had sex?
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34. What was the biggest age difference with a partner?

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35. Do you feel you are a good lover/partner in bed?
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36. Are you still going to have sex when your 70?
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37. What was your most embarrassing sexual moment?
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38. Do you prefer to sleep with someone older or younger than you?
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39. Who gave you the best sex of your life?
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40. If you could sleep with ANYONE, who would it be?

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And just so you know, if you think it's easy for me to publish this survey on my blog, think again. I think of it as my own little act of bravery. :)
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love
kj

19 comments:

  1. I really don't understand this post. What's sex?

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  2. ms em, i don't think this is the best survey for you to consider just yet. sex, you may learn one day, is like riding a bicycle. at some point you wiggle into the seat, hold on tight, steer as best you can, and hope you don't crash into a brick wall

    hahaheehee ms em. xoxo

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  3. 1. In an ideal world how many times a week would you want to have sex/make love (definition: some combination of foreplay and/or orgasm)
    4 or 5
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    2. How many partners have you had? Men, woman, or both?
    7 or 8 men, 5 or 6 women
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    3. How often do you fantasize about having sex with someone who is unavailable or inappropriate ?
    often
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    4. How important would you rate sex at this point in your life?
    very important, increasingly important
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    5. Do you find sex more or less important than you did 10 years ago?
    definitely
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    6. Do you like to be rough or sensual?
    probably a bit rough but not always
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    7. Do you prefer to be with the opposite sex or the same sex?
    more women, but depends on the person
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    8. How often do you have sex?
    rarely these days
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    9. Is sex a priority for you?
    yes
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    10.Have/Do you ever fake orgasm? Why?
    not to hurt someone's feelings or to get them to stop trying
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    11. Do you prefer the lights on or off?
    off
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    12. How do you feel about one night stands and how many have you had?
    i've had three and i loved them
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    13. What's your favorite position?
    side by side, or on top
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    14. Where's your favorite place to have sex?
    in bed
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    15. Have you ever watched porn while having sex?
    once or twice
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    16. How long do you usually foreplay?
    10 minutes
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    17. Do you like kissing during sex?
    are you kidding? definitely
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    18. Are you loud or quiet?
    i would like to be loud but i get embarrassed
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    19. Do you prefer your partner to be loud or quiet?
    quiet
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    20. How old were you when you lost your virginity?
    18
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    21. How many sexual partners have you had?
    about 15
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    22. When and where was your wildest sex ever?
    in bed with the first woman i was ever with,
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    23. What's your ultimate sexual fantasy?
    no comment but it involves props
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    24. During sex...what are you thinking about?
    sometimes i daydream about being tied up
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    25. How many positions do you enjoy during one episode?
    1 or 2
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    26. Do you ever worry if you are pleasing your partner?
    sometimes but i try hard to please
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    27. Could you live without sex?
    yes, but i wouldn't like it
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    28. Do you find sex boring?
    no
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    29. How long does a typical sexual episode last for you?
    10 to 20 minutes
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    30. Have you ever had a 3-some? 4-some? 5-some?
    never, i don't think i could
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    31. What's your biggest turn on?
    touching breasts
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    32. Do you ever have sex in the shower?
    yes
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    33. What's the weirdest place you've ever had sex?
    in the car at a red light
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    34. What was the biggest age difference with a partner?
    10 years, i was 32, he was 22
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    35. Do you feel you are a good lover/partner in bed?
    yes, very much so
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    36. Are you still going to have sex when your 70?
    yes, i want to until i die
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    37. What was your most embarrassing sexual moment?
    i won't say, but it was embarrassing
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    38. Do you prefer to sleep with someone older or younger than you?
    i've never thought about it
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    39. Who gave you the best sex of your life?
    no names, but 2 years of sex two or three times a day every day
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    40. If you could sleep with ANYONE, who would it be?
    i'm not sure.

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  4. Jesus I'm not answering all that in the comments!

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  5. Me neither but it brings up interesting memories!

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  6. Yikes. A daunting list of questions. Were I to answer them all I would have articulated more about sex than I have in my life. Except for our book, the first published book of letters between me and two friends, when one or two of us wrote quite a bit about sex.

    Currently the well is dry.

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  7. I'm not going to take it this year. And there are way too many questions (although some of them are redundant, sorry!)

    But I've reached an age where I really don't care about anyone else's sex lives and I certainly don't want to air mine. I think it's different than sitting down with a friend or two over coffee or wine and talking about some of it. An intimate subject being discussed between good friends. (Even though I have many good friends here, you included.)

    But it's just not where I'm at this year, sharing my intimate life and thoughts.

    I know you find this to be lots of fun, so I'm hoping others don't disappoint you ;)

    xoxo
    Lo♥

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  8. anonymous: you brave soul! :)

    baino, mim, suki,lo: hee hee hee. this is funny: last time we had so many forthright answers. when i posted this last night, i too felt differently about it, more embarrassed this time around.

    so we'll see. but not for long.


    p.s. lo, meet me for coffee!! :)

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  9. Ok, I am game!
    1. Right now due to hormones, 0 is the ideal number, but I am sure it will change, when I am in love 5 will do.

    2. 10

    3. Never, but it used to be my MO.
    4. Right now, not important at all.
    5.Way less.
    6.Sensual
    7. I always prefered men, but have been attracted to a few women in the past.
    8.NEVER, like I said the hormones...
    9.NO
    10.Yes, once, to get it over with :-)
    11.Off
    12. I had one, but it with with a friend.
    13. I like them all.
    14. The bed
    15. Yes. Though I would hate it now.
    16.As long as possible :-).
    17.Yes! It is the best part!
    18.Depends :-)
    19.Every situation is different.
    20.This is shocking, but I was 24, I was waiting for love.
    21. You already asked this question and it has not changed since 10 minutes ago...
    22. In an apartment with my first partner, we did it in every room it was really fun.
    23. To be deeply in love with the RIGHT person and him with me, of course we will have great sex.
    24. If it's good, the man I am with, total focus, if it's bad, getting it over with.
    25. Two or three.
    26. Never, I am a very good lover.
    27. YES! I do and very well, thank you.
    28.Right now I do, very much so.
    29.An hour.
    30. No, though I was invited once for a threesome, I turned it down. I am a one person at a time kind of girl.
    31.LOVE!
    32. I have, but I don't like it.
    33. No weird places.
    34. 16 years younger than me.
    35. I think I am a great lover.
    36. If I ever get over these hormones, I hope so.
    37. When the man I was with let a big one, we laughed and it was okay.
    38. I prefer someone my own age.
    39. B
    40. Hands down, Johnny Dep!

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  10. P.S. That was me above, Annie C.xoxo
    I am not afraid of any old sex survey :-).

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  11. kj i get embarressed when animals in the wild do it.
    and anyway, i am still amazed over your money post, it's like textbook. i am one of the lucky ones who doesn't have to worry about money. i don't have any so i don't worry about it.
    (you would cringe to see what a poor money manager person i am.)
    :)

    good luck with your s. e. x. survey!

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  12. I wish Soulbrush would come by,,,,,
    :-D

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  13. Sex... a natural integral part of life and something I rarely speak of and if and when I do it is with few.

    I would say on a whole I'm not curious about any individuals sexual preferences..... unless of course I would be considering having sex with them.... otherwise it is of no interest to me at all.

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  16. I guess what got me first was your asking but not telling! You show me mine I'll show you yours, but you weren't. Or did I miss that somewhere?

    I am way past giving a damn what anyone else does in bed or out of bed sex-wise!

    And what I do or don't do isn't anyones business either.
    That's just how I feel about it.

    Was going to just skip this post all together but my curiosity of other's reactions got to me. But I am not spending time reading answers to the questions (see my second sentence!)

    Hope you got the rise you wanted from this or whatever it was you hoped for.

    Your snow photos are terrific!

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  17. i love all this discussion. i wonder what would or might be different if we were sitting in a living room over drinks and the topic of sex came up. maybe something, maybe nothing.

    just a few random comments:

    lori, i choked laughing at your comment about animals doing it. too cute.

    annie and cs, right on!

    babs, i too remember soulbrush's answers. still laughing whenever i think of them. i miss her.

    lynn, what makes you the anonymous comment may not be mine? :)

    ah sex, it's a great topic even when it's not. thank you all

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