Monday, October 20, 2008

A Carrot, an Egg, and a Cup of Coffee

I'm a pushover for corny proverbs and silly advice. Please keep that in mind as I offer the following story which I warn you is kind of ridiculous, but none-the-less thought provoking. Is my imagination as fertile as whoever made up this 'teaching tool'? I don't think so, but you know, I wouldn't necessarily mind if it were....
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A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
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Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.
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In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see."
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"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"
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Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
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The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
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The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
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"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
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So dear reader, which are you? Are you the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity will wilt , become soft and lose your strength?
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Are you the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Do you have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, it becomes hardened and stiff? Does your shell look the same, but on the inside you are bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
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Or are you like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, can you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity?
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Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean? May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
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(Note from kj: And when push becomes shove, at least for a time, may we all be COFFEE).

5 comments:

  1. Gawd first again . .I was a carrot but I think I'm now a coffee bean with an occasional reversion to carrotism - does carrot flavoured coffee work? Maybe I'm a coffee flavoured carrot . . .either way I'm a Libran and simply cannot make up my mind! Nice little story tho!

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  2. Excellent tale KJ and the first I have heard of it.

    Like Baino I think I have evolved as I have aged.

    When my grandson survived AML our entire family changed our lives to some degree. You have no option but to go with the flow. I think I am a coffee been although I know at times I have been both the carrot and egg :D

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  3. I think I'm the Walrus....koo koo kachooo.

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  4. I would like to say I'm coffee but I probably do a little of each :) You know like stages. I still grieve every day for Rat and my heart aches for him :( so I guess I'm soft...

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  5. I forgive you :-)
    Because you are such a sweet person!

    I love this post. Makes me think.

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