"Security and passion are two separate fundamental human needs that spring from different motives and tend to pull us in different directions.... We all need security: permanence, reliability, stability and continuity.... But we also have a need for novelty and change, generative forces that give life fullness and vibrancy. We’re walking contradictions. What is true for human beings is true for every living things: all organisms require alternating periods of growth and equilibrium.”
From Mating in Captivity by a sex therapist named Esther Perel.
Hmmmm. I'm writing about this very contradiction. It is a core part of my second, almost finished novel.
Security or Passion? I'm curious: if you were choosing which way you'd like your life to lean, which would you favor?