tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post4062369901591141385..comments2024-03-27T13:36:21.967-04:00Comments on .OPTIONS for a Better World: Thinkingkjhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-23214780464408969822012-01-02T22:24:10.851-05:002012-01-02T22:24:10.851-05:00The forgiveness is for you. I'm working on a ...The forgiveness is for you. I'm working on a little of that myself. ;-)secret agent womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03763879283931347382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-88008734543281277162012-01-01T10:42:11.071-05:002012-01-01T10:42:11.071-05:00Wow, such brilliant comments here, on a truly thou...Wow, such brilliant comments here, on a truly thoughtful post,kj!<br /><br />I love this from Allegra..."forgiveness is the fragrance of the violet upon the heel that crushed it." It grabs my gardener's heart...Marionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00607220451457829777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-79800525741419716332011-12-31T12:23:39.195-05:002011-12-31T12:23:39.195-05:00it is often difficult for us to forgive but when w...it is often difficult for us to forgive but when we do we allow love to flow through us into the world. <br /><br />you have a big heart, kj. some of that love flowing through you will touch this person in your life who hurt you so much. and healing will happen in ways that we can't imagine. <br /><br />i wish you and your family all the blessings the new year can bring. and then some. and knowledge that stella is at peace and that memories of her will bring a smile to your face from time to time. <br /><br />with love,<br /><br />amandaAmanda Summerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00942636545948440422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-70152574926918781162011-12-31T07:25:47.106-05:002011-12-31T07:25:47.106-05:00What is it about this part of the year that invite...What is it about this part of the year that invites memories and with them a sadness in looking back? <br />Yes, I always feel sad at this time of the year too- but soon I shall shake it off and always I try to count my blessings and be mondful. Wishing you and JB a very happy 2012 filled with friends and health and joyful memories,and I DO believe our grands will look back at our blogs and probably laugh at how 'old fashioned' we were!!! Love ya and big smooches xxxxsoulbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16879115279499153124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-61107402791346820912011-12-31T05:44:21.444-05:002011-12-31T05:44:21.444-05:00I'll go out on a dry winter limb here and say ...I'll go out on a dry winter limb here and say that anyone who would call Stella "someone's dog" is not worthy of the thoughts that drove the post that generated the comments about her. :)<br /><br />One of my biggest fears is my laptop dying because, unlike you, I have not backed up anything except the photos that my husband transferred to a disc in early 2011 (and hundreds more have been taken and stored here since then). I can be so stupid sometimes!<br />I hope you retrieve your stuff.Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11135393270656573516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-18057836139404848992011-12-31T05:16:17.788-05:002011-12-31T05:16:17.788-05:00Love what you've shared! Loads of love! :)Love what you've shared! Loads of love! :)Annie Lightbulbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07778276120515990572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-82455361901786956652011-12-30T23:29:18.201-05:002011-12-30T23:29:18.201-05:00i think that it is healthy to ask that all be bles...i think that it is healthy to ask that all be blessed...even those that have hurt us in some way...its not easy to do but i do think it is a healthy thing...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-41429402047206040132011-12-30T19:26:55.415-05:002011-12-30T19:26:55.415-05:00silke,yay that you're back! my dear marion say...silke,yay that you're back! my dear marion says we get to place where it doesn't hurt so much to remember. i like that. and my own saying; soft friends protect us and hard friends teach us to protect ourselves. :^) much much to you too.kjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-86127210585116987592011-12-30T19:18:49.037-05:002011-12-30T19:18:49.037-05:00You know, I've had two very difficult relation...You know, I've had two very difficult relationships in my life and both of them have taught me more about love and forgiveness than any other. And they have taught me that forgiveness is for the one who forgives. You sound like your heart is healing and I am so happy about that!! Much, much love, SilkeSilke Powershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17094855019089665976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-18368398545030580472011-12-30T15:50:20.380-05:002011-12-30T15:50:20.380-05:00lilith, you are wise and right in this. to bless a...lilith, you are wise and right in this. to bless and mourn at the same time is pretty damn good. i like to think i'm there too. happy new year: my prediction for you is that excitement awaits!<br /><br />aw cat. you touch me with this comment. i know, you know i know. i know you do too. here's to our year ahead, to our friendship, to letting it grow ♥ (since we're both trustworthy) :^)kjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-51255216742935701602011-12-30T15:44:28.409-05:002011-12-30T15:44:28.409-05:00'as long as i clutch anger and resentment i am...'as long as i clutch anger and resentment i am harming myself.' yes, suki, it's pushing pain inward. it's best to let it dissolve,to let time and patience do their work. easier to say than do sometimes. but love is love. once it's planted, it grows one way or another. xo<br /><br />annie, wise words. sometimes time, place, circumstance, trump intention. happy new year dear annie. have yourself some fun!<br /><br />lynn, all year i have witnessed your enthusiasm and joy with life! whatever the secret to accepting and appreciating what is, you have unlocked it, my friend! and you are my official sketch inspiration and teacher. in case you didn't know that. :*)<br /><br />babs, you! i just love you!!!!!<br /><br />ah hells, that i would know how to repress. i don't think it's in my DNA. accept accept accept. that comes first for me. i'm probably 75% there, far enough that i want to and can bless. xoxoxkjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-53504797580965786012011-12-30T15:34:20.434-05:002011-12-30T15:34:20.434-05:00annie, is that what i'm doing--forgiving? can&...annie, is that what i'm doing--forgiving? can't bless without forgiving? actually, i'm not quite there. but it's what i want and hope for. xoxo<br /><br />allegra, i totally love the way you say what you say, not just the wisdom of it but the rhythm too. i have no doubt everyone here will read your comment and tuck it safely within. and your nanny's discourse on forgiveness: OMG allegra. it's going on my sidebar. thank you my most dear friend. ♥<br /><br />jos, the words of 'iowa' make me cry. i love the song and am so glad it is with you too. ♥ i'm absorbing what you've said about forgiveness being for my benefit, not another's. i resist that, perhaps because i want to give a final gift. maybe that gift tricks me into believing i can, at least cosmically, right something that turned out wrong. but i know you speak the truth... happy new year, jos. stay close xxox<br /><br />oh thank you my dear wieneke. you understand my story, perhaps, more than others. and thank you for your caring and connection with stella. honestly, for someone to meet her and love her and then call her 'someone's dog' while holding an eraser, that was a reality check for me. that one is hard to forgive. xoxokjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-62596546525421002122011-12-30T13:31:47.980-05:002011-12-30T13:31:47.980-05:00What does this make you?...I know,you dont give a ...What does this make you?...I know,you dont give a damn,but I feel the need to tell you anyway...It makes you beautiful inside and out and I am so thankful to call you my friend.I am so thankful for your post sweet Kj...it is helping me too...I'm not saying I am where you are...but I am moving forward,one step at a time and I am thankful to you.Love,CatIn the Light of the Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02306670117383113389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-38460505446801784702011-12-30T09:40:21.650-05:002011-12-30T09:40:21.650-05:00It is one of the givens, that people are not lovin...It is one of the givens, that people are not loving and loyal all of the time. It is sad though. I lost a good friend this year as well, she defriended me. We'd been friends since we were fourteen. At one time I would have thought it was me, but this was about her. I wish her well and mourn my loss.<br /><br />Take care woman.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-35738853343106571662011-12-30T01:28:21.777-05:002011-12-30T01:28:21.777-05:00Hard to take darling. I know the feeling of love a...Hard to take darling. I know the feeling of love and loss and hurtful responses even though (in the case of my friend) not meant to be hurtful, they are. I focus on the good times and try to repress the sad. It doesn't always work but I do believe time heals. Hope your hard drive can be recovered.Bainohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156193098088048637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-20508172076360771902011-12-30T00:29:43.582-05:002011-12-30T00:29:43.582-05:00It's all been said here, and very eloquently.
...It's all been said here, and very eloquently.<br />I'll just add that:<br /><br />Stella was never just somebody's dog.<br />Stella was a canine angel, the girl of the soul filled eyes with love at it's purest.She was meant for you all along, and loves you still.<br />XOXO~Babshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00912644174343772017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-25709436899367037282011-12-29T13:23:57.619-05:002011-12-29T13:23:57.619-05:00What I hear is acceptance of what was: the good, t...What I hear is acceptance of what was: the good, the bad and the ugly. And forgiveness, at least a letting go. Good for you and your soul, not for anyone else to judge.<br />I can relate to a long ago relationship that probably should not have even been, but was, and was hurtful. I just hope I never have to encounter the person in person again (I do believe he has moved across the country so probably won't) but often wonder how'd I'd act if that did occur. Would I spit, hit, yell, scream, smile, be nice, act as if nothing bothered me? Of course I have moved on and on and on...and have no earthly good reason to dwell on those years/experiences now at all. So won't. Yours brought mine to mind. Now I choose to let it go again! I hope when you can you will do the same. Now is oh so much better and I know I am lucky that that ended so I could have this NOW! ;-) Happy NEW year and thanks for letting me get that off MY chest! LOLLynn Cohenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12094038275377357886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-37864257665529394002011-12-29T09:51:34.139-05:002011-12-29T09:51:34.139-05:00I really like what Allegra said, forgiveness is fo...I really like what Allegra said, forgiveness is for the one who forgives. I think it is always wise and good to forgive, never hold a grudge. It does not mean that you will still be friends with the one forgiven, just that you can forgive and lay it to rest in your own heart.xoxoAnniehttp://blissful-bohemian.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-12674559118196848802011-12-29T07:51:40.420-05:002011-12-29T07:51:40.420-05:00Certainly something about this time of year that m...Certainly something about this time of year that makes us look back as well as forward and ponder our lives as they have unfolded. Part of that too is our view of what happened, which is sometimes different than what happened and subject to many perspectives, views and interpretations.<br /><br />I read in some spiritual book somewhere, maybe it was from Ane Pema, that one must forgive and forgive every moment of ones life.<br /><br />I myself so often say to people "I am sorry." That is because we can so easily offend someone without knowing it. If they tell us we have offended them, then....I am sorry. I am human. I make mistakes and have times of overlooking another's sensitivity.<br /><br />I agree that forgiveness heals the one who forgives as Allegra has said. as long as i clutch anger and resentment i am harming myself.<br /><br />Being human is so complicated yet so simple. I believe we all do our best in any given moment, we are all filled with Buddha nature, loving kindness and compassion.<br /><br />Have a great 2012 and so glad you backed up your writings.sukipoethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09351851210507048174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-63174136041629539542011-12-29T04:32:31.530-05:002011-12-29T04:32:31.530-05:00In Dutch I could express myself in this matter, bu...In Dutch I could express myself in this matter, but I cannot in English. You can call it the curse of a second language. But I fully agree with the wise words Allegra Smith wrote. She is absolutely right. And... dear Stella was of course your dog but she was a little bit of us all here, I dare say.Griemmankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10388794968401645902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-14471030430805868192011-12-29T04:02:56.828-05:002011-12-29T04:02:56.828-05:00When I choose to trust it is my choice. So are the...When I choose to trust it is my choice. So are the consequences ... good and not so good. But understanding this and learning to deal with it are two different things.<br /><br />I trusted and loved someone who was just playing games. I tried not to believe it and for a while I succeeded. <br /><br />To get to the point where we wish them well speaks of strength not weakness. But make no mistake, we do it for ourselves not for them. We do it because to do otherwise hurts us even more than the hurt of not doing so. <br /><br />It's such a release to forgive. It frees us to be ourselves again.<br /><br />Allegra says it so eloquently as always. And she is right about ammends which is something I am only just learning. Ha!! Better late than never.<br /><br />Warmest hugs KJ, and I am listening to Dar again this morning :) xx JosJoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04681996675508746353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-63984853816896035412011-12-28T19:09:54.412-05:002011-12-28T19:09:54.412-05:00Forgiveness can only heal the one who forgives. Th...Forgiveness can only heal the one who forgives. The offender must deal with her/his own Karma, as no forgiveness will ever be enough to erase the marks that offending another leaves in one's own Karma.<br /><br />We must learn to forgive ourselves and if we offend to make reparations. "I am sorry" is completely worthless to me unless there is some righting of the wrong, some way to make the Universe know that the scales are once again, at least for the moment, in balance.<br /><br />Trite as it may sound one of my favorite lessons from nanny was to remember that forgiveness is the fragrance of the violet upon the heel that crushed it.A.Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06947308878002639964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-24486388874562434922011-12-28T18:32:43.819-05:002011-12-28T18:32:43.819-05:00Forgiveness is healing. Understanding promotes for...Forgiveness is healing. Understanding promotes forgiveness. What you say here sounds healthy. Even the "I don't give a damn" part :)Wine and Wordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06778785233226804217noreply@blogger.com