tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post178715572081585681..comments2024-03-27T13:36:21.967-04:00Comments on .OPTIONS for a Better World: People I Know: Stacey's Storykjhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-50701282624186774582009-05-30T20:38:23.184-04:002009-05-30T20:38:23.184-04:00OmG such a powerful story <3
i used to boo-hoo ...OmG such a powerful story <3<br />i used to boo-hoo inner child work until it simply 'happened' to me once... It changed me to sit with myself as i am today, with my child self xnollyposhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13205974328143335552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-4441543678466612982009-05-26T22:04:48.574-04:002009-05-26T22:04:48.574-04:00I so wish I had such a satisfying job. Heartbreaki...I so wish I had such a satisfying job. Heartbreaking as it must be you should be very proud that you're helping people who are essentially broken to mend themselves. Some chidren grow to adulthood without knowing love and support just abuse and deprecation. I can't understand it but you are wonderful to help them overcome it.Bainohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156193098088048637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-90614074896616052012009-05-24T15:43:51.168-04:002009-05-24T15:43:51.168-04:00yes... you're no magician, and you're not up for c...yes... you're no magician, and you're not up for counselor of the year... you are a caring angel... a selfless soul to show the path of freedom to Stacey and sharing this story with us... so that we can learn more and be free more...<br /><br /><br />think Stacy should also mother her sadistic mother so that she can be freed more...<br /><br /><br />does she know about her mother's childhood? her life? what were her experiences to make her such a sadistic person? her child should have been killed somewhere... <br /><br />when Stacy knows about these facts, little by little she pities her mother, forgives her... and is freed from the hate... with the power of love...<br /><br /><br />there is always a point in our life where we should mother our parents... that's the only way to grow... up...<br /><br /><br /><br />love you<br /><br /><br />a lothuman beinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09232419187783429903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-83386386531604524982009-05-23T18:32:24.257-04:002009-05-23T18:32:24.257-04:00babs, that is so true. and while you might think s...babs, that is so true. and while you might think siblings in traumatic households would stick together, the opposite ususally happens--a splintering of every child just trying to take care of him or herself.<br /><br />please tell your inner little girl that my inner little girl would like to play together someday!kjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-55746115007286640862009-05-23T16:48:27.943-04:002009-05-23T16:48:27.943-04:00kj, it's a fine mind you have,,bless you and the p...kj, it's a fine mind you have,,bless you and the people like you in this world.<br /><br />I am never happier than when I embrace my inner little girl, allow her to paint, to play, to be.<br />Just an aside: I have 3 sisters. We all grew up in the same house, same parents. You'd never know it, when the 4 of us discuss childhood,our home and family. Each person sees so differently from our own reality.It's like there were 4 different households there. I just find that interesting.<br />The end.~Babshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00912644174343772017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-25106655340041987172009-05-23T16:10:23.984-04:002009-05-23T16:10:23.984-04:00kay, i think it is about empowering and replacing....kay, i think it is about empowering and replacing. sometimes i think it's that basic. you never really lose the trauma, but you can get far enough away from it to heal okay...<br /><br />lo, yay for you too my sweet friend. please tell that little girl of yours i love her.<br /><br />val, my inner child little girl said to tell you you are exactly right. oh and she wants me to tell you that you are one special woman.<br />oxox<br /><br />dear melissa-who-i-miss, thank you. how is everyone? how does your yard look? xoxokjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-51985130260570925102009-05-23T16:05:59.391-04:002009-05-23T16:05:59.391-04:00soulbrush, thank you. i've always thought i was a ...soulbrush, thank you. i've always thought i was a good counselor but my current job feels so meaningful and powerful it makes me proud.<br /><br />dear walking man and his pudgy little boy: you are both precious. honest to god, i am so glad we are poets together, we and hb! it makes me happy. :)<br /><br />wieneke, rewarding indeed. i get alot from it. i wish i visited your blog more often. i am going to make a resolution to do that. xo<br /><br />cs, i know what you mean, although i love these stories from anybody. there's a psychiatrist who writes a column in the boston globe and i just love how she sees things <br />about her clients. <br /><br />dearest mim, please, definately don't say 'buck up' to that little girl. she's doing her best already. she's probably just scared and will like a hug. p.s.i'm going to hug her when we meet! unless you'd rather i didn't--in that case i'll just reach out for your hand(s) and a smile will cover my face.kjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-55579756337268879212009-05-23T15:11:28.847-04:002009-05-23T15:11:28.847-04:00I need to say it again ... thank God for counselor...I need to say it again ... thank God for counselors like you, KJ! This is a powerful story ... xoMelissa https://www.blogger.com/profile/17200513242681660564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-60936436607112508602009-05-23T13:36:06.233-04:002009-05-23T13:36:06.233-04:00WOW! It is a moving and touching story. It must be...WOW! It is a moving and touching story. It must be challenging for her to be a good mother when her role models have been so absent and abusive! I tip my hat to you for helping these women find their inner child and nurture themselves. I guess the real story is that not only should we help when we can but we should nurture our inner child as soon as possible to be able to be there for others. Well done :)valerie walshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15680334509469712078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-52500957148643675852009-05-23T12:16:22.219-04:002009-05-23T12:16:22.219-04:00I wish I'd had a therapist like you who helped me ...I wish I'd had a therapist like you who helped me get to my deeper issues and fight my abusers. My inner child isn't such a wreck as she used to be, but we still have more work to do.<br /><br />Yay for Stacey's escalator and yay for you ;)<br />xoxo<br />Lostudio lolohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15363808478293833466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-87526226351395188762009-05-23T09:34:40.864-04:002009-05-23T09:34:40.864-04:00What wonderful, empowering and transforming work y...What wonderful, empowering and transforming work you are doing KJ! I know Stacey will go from strength to strength.Kay Cookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01791873464409271216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-40884553086088489932009-05-23T08:05:07.911-04:002009-05-23T08:05:07.911-04:00I like the escalator idea. My therapist is into t...I like the escalator idea. My therapist is into this type of visualization but we haven't done it much. I'm still wondering what to say to that little kid - either "buck up" or "let's hug". <br /><br />Drawing helps also....Mimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12409455543895086283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-20300470844205493362009-05-23T07:46:18.670-04:002009-05-23T07:46:18.670-04:00I have a strange reaction to patient stories - I f...I have a strange reaction to patient stories - I find myself drifting away as I read. Maybe because I <I>have</I> to attend to the story when I'm in session and I hear so many brutal stories every day. But I would guess the non-therapist crowd would be intrigued so I think it's a very valuable thing to post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-30043562995631067892009-05-23T04:53:58.394-04:002009-05-23T04:53:58.394-04:00I've read this story with sincere interest, Karen....I've read this story with sincere interest, Karen. An 'escalator' gift to help forget the bad memories and replace them. What a good idea. I think you've chosen a very suiting job. Difficult perhaps, but in the end very rewarding. First of all for the clients and also for yourself. Keep up the good work!Wienekenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-25157692569236944352009-05-23T04:42:45.315-04:002009-05-23T04:42:45.315-04:00I am a logical tightassed adult now but then I've ...I am a logical tightassed adult now but then I've already walked back down that time line of my life and helped the fat kid find his place.<br /><br />It is a good thing you do kj.the walking manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058913927297370740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-27876424894071353462009-05-23T04:07:18.455-04:002009-05-23T04:07:18.455-04:00powerful insight into another person's psyche.wish...powerful insight into another person's psyche.wish i had had a counsellor like you many years ago!soulbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16879115279499153124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-35976613508830796952009-05-23T00:20:40.761-04:002009-05-23T00:20:40.761-04:00bimbimbie, i always smile when i see your avatar h...bimbimbie, i always smile when i see your avatar here. thanks for all your comments (emily however is huffing about the pyramid scheme. be prepared: you may hear from her). :) <br /><br />annie, yeah, it really works when it works. we all need safe places.<br />i;m glad to pass on a reminder. have a good weekend. enjoy yourself. :)kjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-81881821928823776162009-05-23T00:11:39.189-04:002009-05-23T00:11:39.189-04:00Speaking as one who was sexually abused as a young...Speaking as one who was sexually abused as a young child, this kind of exercise works. I did things like this in my twenties to help heal me and I am mostly healed :-). Thank you for this story of hope and also a reminder to me that it could not hurt to do it again and see what I may find. xoxoAnniehttp://blissful-bohemian.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-55729503660806092582009-05-22T23:58:06.477-04:002009-05-22T23:58:06.477-04:00KJ that's a powerful story, especially as it belon...KJ that's a powerful story, especially as it belongs to a real person ... I'm glad for Stacey, the little girl and the grandmother she is today that you gave her the gift of that escalator*!*Bimbimbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12427788003822538655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22678097.post-33303281826174955622009-05-22T23:28:49.825-04:002009-05-22T23:28:49.825-04:00thank you for reading this story. i love writing p...thank you for reading this story. i love writing pieces like this. i always hope it educates or helps somebody in some way...<br /><br />love<br />kjkjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.com