Monday, December 22, 2014

the love story


We said goodbye this week. I'll let these photos speak for themselves. I'll only add that my Mom died comfortably and in peace. She left us with no regrets and with family and friends we celebrated her life through service and song. I will miss her forever, and my memories are wonderful. love kj







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  1. My heart goes to you and the rest of the family. She was a very wealthy women, the riches of love are impossible to buy, yet so easy to give away but only those who are truly wealthy of love can afford to give love freely.

    That is your inheritance, spend it wisely, give your love generously, and honor her every time you do that. You are very rich on your own, but now you are wealthy of love, of memories and those are the only things that are true witness of a life well lived. My love as always, wishing that your journey be easy of pain and filled with the joy of knowing she was your Mother.

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    1. Allegra, I can't convey how much your comment has wakened me. Yes, I am wealthy of inherited love and yes, it's up to me to give it away.

      Thank you, my beloved friend
      Love
      kj

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  2. I couldn't say it any better than A. Smith.

    Sending love and prayers

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  3. I'm so sorry Karen. I'm thankful your mom died peacefully; it's what I wish for everyone. That being said, it still hurts so much to lose someone you love. It seems even worse at Christmas time for some reason. Sending hugs.

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    1. Deb, I'm surprised to say that at least now I won't mind the special reminder of my Mother at christmas time. She left me with gifts and I like passing gifts on. That may be why.

      Thank you for thinking of me, deb.

      Love
      kj

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  4. It's sad but not tragic when one so old and infirm dies. I know I never shed a tear for my father because his death was timely, whereas I grieved intensely for a year and a half upon my mother's death because she was only 74 and died unexpectedly.

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    1. Snow, I should have been prepared if only because of my Mother's age. And she had physically declined. But I know she still felt vibrant and wanted to live. So I wanted that for her too. This was kind of unexpected: we had a week from symptom to death

      Love
      kj

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  5. This is one of those times where I wish my words were magic. My mom died three years ago and there is not a day that goes by that I do not ache for her. All I can say is, "I know, dear one. I know." I am sending you so much love. Namaste.

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    1. Thank you so very much. It helps because you understand. I feel like my Mother has moved inside me, for the good...

      Love
      kj

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  6. I came so close to meeting her that I feel I knew her. Especially through your stories which made me laugh and cry. I love the advice to spend your (love) inheritance wisely. How perfect is that! And you will. You will. xoxo

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    1. Thank you,lo. I think this will change me and with that change I think I will be more generous

      Love xo
      kj

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  7. It may not seem like it right now, but you are a lucky lady, loved and with much love to give - you are amazing. Your wonderful Mom raised a hell of a gal.... That said, I know how much you will miss her and I also know you carry her with you everywhere.

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    1. Thank you from my grateful heart, Mim. I know you know and you are right xo

      Love
      kj

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  8. It was her time to go and she went peacefully, surrounded by people who loved her and who she loved. It will be difficult to get used to the idea that she is not longer here, but the good memories will stay. Love and another big hug!

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    1. Thank you, Wieneke xo. There is relief, too. There will be a freedom from worry, at the least. My memories: they seem to have expanded already

      Love
      kj

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  9. What an amazing life your mom lived and what an amazing daughter you are - she will live on in your heart. Sending loving thoughts and hugs dear KJ.

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    1. Thank you, Amanda. I've learned a lot

      Love
      kj

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  10. Beautiful KJ, Love and hugs. xoxo

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  11. I loved your mom through your words and photos. I love you, dear friend.
    Peace to you this holiday.

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    1. What a sweet dear comment, Lydia. Thank you so much. I love you too. Your loss is equally great. Time will help

      Love
      kj

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  12. Your heart must be heavy. May the memories lighten up the corners of your grief.
    Big hug.

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    1. Thank you, rosaria. I appreciate your good wishes and getting to know you

      Love
      kj

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  13. I am so very sorry for your loss. What a lovely gift your gave your Mother...love and dignity. Sending you big love, Deb

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    1. Aw deb, I don 't know how you got through it all. That your love remains so strong and true teaches and comforts me. I am reading a new book by Anne Lamont about grace. Do you know her? She's no nonsense, funny, and very wise. Xoxo

      Love
      kj

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  14. Oh, how did I miss this?

    I'm sorry. I'm glad she died in peace and loved, but I know her passing leaves a hole in your life.

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    1. Thanks, cs. It is a hole. I will be freer in choices and travels, and I will worry less, but boy I will miss how glad she was to see me, how hard she tried. I'm told that miss never goes away. If that's true, and I think iris, my life just became a before and after. Which is okay

      Happy new year xo
      Love
      kj

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  15. I'm happy that you feel as you do.

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