Tuesday, August 23, 2011

26 years


Today is our 26th anniversary. It could just as well have been May 3rd when we threw a weekend celebration in honor of ourselves for 45 of our friends and family. It also could have been a date in September neither of us can remember, when we two women became the 1006th couple in Provincetown to legally marry one another, finally, because we could.

Together we have lived in three houses in three places, one affluent, one ocean side, one rural. We have raised a phenomenal and vibrant daughter even though sometimes we were all more triangles than circles. We've loved three dogs and two cats and one white bird. We've lived apart and commuted to and from Maine and Massachusetts every week for five years and we grown into ourselves and with each other over the years, together, separate, together. I have always felt loved. There was a time now five years ago when I was sure that love could multiply and when I found that could not be, it was she who told me it was not my fault, she who had been hurt the most, who stood to protect me when arrows broke my skin.

I found a card leaning against the coffee pot this morning. Inside it said, "I am not always perfect in my love for you--but always know that I love you dearly and always will." She will be embarrassed and maybe even upset that I have shared something so intimate on my blog. But it says so much about her.

Tomorrow night we will dine at a rare elegant restaurant and include dessert. Chances are we will toss our heads back, laughing and remembering when we first met, when we first knew, why we still honor this day as the first day. I don't thank her enough. I hope she knows.

Happy Anniversary JB Ms. Petunia.


kj

23 comments:

  1. Congratulations on your commitment to love one another through thick and thin.
    Well worth celebrating.
    Have fun.
    x Robyn

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  2. I feel sure she knows. Congratualtions.

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  3. Beautiful post! I wish you two all the happiness in the years to come. Happy anniversary and .... take a lot of that dessert, will you? ;-)

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  4. Smooches to you both and congrads

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  5. What a super post! Congratulations, kj and jb, on a job well done. It takes a lot of commitment to get to 26 years. I hope your celebration was and is awesome! xx

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  6. congratulations. 26 years is a long time and quite an accomplishment going through all the up and downs an intimate relationship "requires" not quite the right word but you know what I mean.

    What a blessing to have found each other and hope the dinner out is delicious. Eat the dessert first, that's my motto. blessings, Suki

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  7. Remember back seat AFTER dinner! Congratulations, you are officially on the long haul.

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  8. My husband and I also celebrated 26 this year. I could have left the same card for him, and he for I. Is any love perfect? No, but we try. Sometime the waters are muddy. I tell him though, I have not stopped swimming. We are in an uneasy place. I am so happy you are not. Congratulations.

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  9. Happy Happy Anniversary! 26 years is a long time, how lucky and blessed you both are to have found each other and how hard you both must have worked to last this long.
    keep it up :-). Have a wonderful day and to JB too. xoxo

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  10. Love IS the greatest power.... the two of you show it to each other in so many ways. You are a perfet pair!

    Congratulations and a HUGE HUG to you, Ms. "KJB" and to Ms. JB (Finder of Lost Earrings")! Here's to 26 MORE years!!

    Love to both,

    ♥ Robin ♥

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  11. happy happy anniversary kj and jb!! what a lovely sweet post. congratulations. all we really need is love.

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  12. Congratulations to you both, that's one hell of a milestone and beautiful sentiments. May you have 26 more. Much love. Hells.

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  13. Happy Anniversary! Sounds like a challenging, but wonderful, 26 years.
    May you have many more, kj and jb!

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  14. I love it. This post says it all, and then some.

    Every time I visit I truly feel the love in your home.

    Here's to many more years together.

    love to you both ;)

    xoxo
    Lo♥♥♥

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  15. Congratulations on 26 years! My husband and I will celebrate our 16th anniversary next week. (Haha, I had Pilgrim on my lap and he butted his huge male kitty head against my arm as I was typing...causing my 16 to become 166. At times it seems like 166!)

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  16. Wonderful! Congratulations!

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  17. Happy Anniversary (a little late!) KJ and JB! Here's to many more happy years together! xo Pam

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  18. Come on girl..your making me cry here.."I dont thank her enough"..Oh...You always say the most beautiful things..I did mention cry with Joy right!!Congrats to you both!!Hugs,Cat

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  19. OMG that is a long time, well done you two, and many many more happy years too. Love the header friend.

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  20. This is such a wonderful post and a beautiful tribute to your love - Happy Anniversary(ies)!

    xo
    Kristin

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  21. Congratulations!! and here's to many, many more..

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  22. This just makes me hug myself, since I can't hug the both of you...lovely sentiments and true love is wonderful to read about, and remember...

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