Thursday, February 25, 2010

Renee

I know there was some mention that Renee is awake, that we are wondering and all so concerned about her. I know that as of yesterday Renee is still in the hospital, awake for 10-15 minutes at a time. She is not alone and everything that can be done is being done to help her be comfortable.
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I don't know alot more than anyone else, but I can tell you that the love, caring, and comments are helping Renee's family greatly in this difficult time. I have printed out some of our posts about Renee and sent them to Angelique in the hope that she may be able to read or show them to Renee.
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My darling friend,
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I and everyone who loves you prays most of all for no more pain.
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I had a silly thought last night. We are mourning your loss at the same time we believe in the power of miracle, the strength of prayer and love. I thought what if you recovered and laughed your head off at all of us who have already said goodbye to you, We would hear your har har har all over the word, Renee!
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I have gotten to know some of your friends in the past few weeks. I didn't know that you and Linda Sue were room mates at the lake, or that you and Allegra made a LALF pact. All these special private and one-on-one special and often magical relationships that you have made with so many people who cherish you, who hold your heart now and forever.
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The last time I heard from you, you had just gotten the flowers from Laurel and me and you told us both to expect a call from you later in the day, once the bats settled down.
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I'm glad that you had those flowers beside your bed when you left for the hospital.
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I'm glad that I talked to you on Christmas eve, that the treasure chest meant so much, that I know about Heidi, that we talked about hospice and dying and leaving your family. I'm glad that I know the way you say your name, the time you've taken to tend to me--me: even when it made more sense to tend to you.
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I'm glad that we are both grandmothers, that our grandbabies are the same age, that we love them so much we can't even put words to that much love.
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I'm glad that you told me how much your Raven Sister Laurel means to you, how much you love Bella Sinclair, how you and Allegra know each other by feel alone, how much Deborah's prayers have meant to you.
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I'm glad that the blogs have been your 'three pack a day' habit, that they have gotten you through the bats and days in ways you will never forget.
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I'm glad that you and Pattee and Sonia and I joined the Gypsy Caravan, you wild tarot card reader, that you have had the joy of Lo's ravens, Lori's photographs and Angela's angels, Bella's illustrations, Julie Ann's portraits, Baino's kindness, Ribbon and Sweet Mango's wisdom, Deb's prayers. I'm glad that artists and writers and mystics and muses have flocked to you, our Senior Healing Angel.
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I'm glad that you taught me how to love without holding back and without apologizing for it.
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I'm glad that you deleted some comments on your blog because you knew they could hurt or offend.
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I'm glad that I won't be so afraid of dying because of you, that I know you will see my Father sitting beside your Father, and now your Mother, and Sheldon.
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I'm glad that I will someday see you, greeting me with your smile and your har har and your special prayer that begins with F--.
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I'm glad you are so important to me. I will never forget you. Never.
Someday I may meet your children, your grandchildren. I wouldn't be surprised.
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My dearest darling Renee. It is not the same without you. Are you free of pain? Are you comfortable? Can you feel the love?
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If we have to lose you here, I know you will watch for all of us in your new assignment.
You are a Senior Angel, Renee Khan. You've done your job totally perfectly.
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You've left an army behind.
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Love always,
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kj

37 comments:

  1. such a beautiful, caring thing for you to do for Renee and her family.

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  2. I think that Renee is not in a "new place" at the moment. I think we all spend time hovering between worlds, we just don't realize how close the two really are until the end-or until someone we care about is in that doorway.

    Perhaps she is hovering in this spot trying to tell us the door way is always there.

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  3. I would expeect nothing less from you, KJ. Thank you for being our "Gatekeeper" on Renee. It means so much - and I know you believe this. Renee is a person who changes one's life - as are you. (I know, I know - you are too modest to believe this - but, it is true.)

    I keep my (real) candle burning for Renee day and night...

    Yes, still praying for a miracle...

    Sending Renee, ALL her family, and YOU love and many, many hugs.

    Robin

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  4. Ah, typing too quickly....guess that's why I can't land a job! ;)

    That last post was from me...

    Robin

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  5. suki, any thing i can do for renee and her family and those of us who love her is a gift to myself. xoxo

    dk, i wish i could believe this, understand it, accept it. i will say this: heaven looks more attractive to me because of renee. i hope i will not be afraid. xoxo

    robin, yes, renee is transformative. and robin, if i have helped you one little bit, that is great for me too. i am glad to know you, we are connected and i'm glad of that. xoxo

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  6. Love brought us all to Renee and love is what keeps her inside of all of us and all of us together.

    Thanks so much for sharing this, KJ. It is a beautiful tribute to such a loving and amazing woman.

    love,
    Cat

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  7. Glad we are connected too.... you have helped me more than you will ever know.

    Don't be afraid of Heaven, the afterlife, call it what you will...
    The older we get, the more loved ones reside there - waiting for us...

    Stay strong, m'dear.... Renee KNOWS how much she is loved.....and I believe her family does too.

    ♥ Hugs from Robin in a STORMY San Francisco ♥

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  8. How our friends help buoy us up, help carry us to a safer place. How our hearts can learn to love because of the love Renee shared with us without reservation. When I think of her...I think to "be more like Renee" is a quest that will keep a little bit of her with me, always...

    KJ, your thoughtful words and tender thoughts will make their way to Renee, to all our hearts.

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  9. I am so touched by this out pouring of love and affection.

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  10. i hope those 15 minutes are pain free and filled with wonderful awareness of her family all round her at this time. she is sorely missed. i don't think she ever saw my flowers i sent her, nor that piece of art i so badly wanted her to have.but she knows me and she knows i sent them with all my love.

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  11. cat, yes. renee is only easy girl to love! ♥

    robin, hugs to you too. we'll talk. xo

    teri, "I think to "be more like Renee" is a quest that will keep a little bit of her with me, always..."
    this is so inspirational. funny how deeply renee spoke the truth and yet she never offended. teri, i think of your loss sometimes and how full of life and caring you are. xoxox

    lynn, you know, i think it's just the beginning!!! xoxo

    soulbrush, renee held your painting from the treasure chest in her hand, and so did her children. she knows.... xoxox

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  12. These tributes to our senior angel are so wonderful. A kind of healing, really.
    I hope she got to see Soulbrush's flowers. I'll bet someone brought them to her bedside at the hospital.
    I love your list. We could all go on forever about the impact she has had on each of our lives. It's truly amazing. I believe I'm on my health path because of her and what she had said to me many times. She wished she had taken better care of herself. So now I've learned to move myself up on the ladder of priorities. It took a lifetime of knowing it but only when it came from her did I finally hear it.
    Many gifts to many people. Intangible, priceless gifts.

    Thanks for writing this KJ. I'm so glad you're in the loop to keep us all updated.

    I love you.
    xoxo
    Lo

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  13. MY dearest karen, I am so choked up for our Renee. Ever so very grateful you have written her this letter. This is the dearest and warmth from your deep rooted heart. To think Renee is being looked after so well. Oh she is the dearest of all.
    You have told me on numerous accounts of my heart and Renee too as told me the same.
    You two have the most loving and huge roomed hearts ever!
    You are beautiful!
    It hurts so much to think that Renee is going through this and her family beside her.
    To think of how beautiful you are and sending our love through you to Renee and her family!
    Loved all the special conversation sentences you both had.
    This post is pure love!
    LOVE YOU RENEE AND KJ!

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  14. I'm very disappointed in blog land... I thought this was supposed to be a fantasy world where nothing bad ever happened and nothing could make you hurt so much...as losing a friend.

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  15. Thank you for this. I check the blog everyday, looking for any news. Oh that family has been through quite enough.

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  16. Thank you so much for the update. WHEW. I was getting more worried when I saw the comments for Renee had not been updated for a few days. It just seems that somehow we will KNOW when Renee is in the spirit...as if she will be a shooting star just outside each window, or a figure across the moon, like Santa Clause. I think she would like the Santa one. But on her Gypsy caravan. Gosh I miss her already. **blows kisses** Deb

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  17. Spot on & thank you very very much for for your generosity.

    big love to you

    xoxo Ribbon

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  18. Thank you so very much, dearest kj, for posting this update for us, and for this beautiful letter to our beloved Renee.

    Like all of us, I miss her so very much. I hope she is comfortable and pain-free, and that when she is awake she finds a way to say what she still needs to say to those around her, those who love her most of all. Her dear, dear family.

    I also humbly hope she knew how much she will always mean to me, and how she changed my life forever. There will always be a special place in my heart for her. I wish I could have told her one more time.

    Love you, dear and true friend,
    xoxoxo
    Angela

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  19. so beautiful kj, you are such a special person, through and through.
    much love to you and renee.
    ♥ lori

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  20. kj - Thank you for this letter, which says so much of what I am feeling, but can't quite put into words. I feel very blessed to have watched Renee's dearest friendships unfold through the words on blogs, and to have been so fortunate as to have my own with this dear one.

    Love to you - Pam

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  21. This is a beautiful post. I love that you sent Renee's family the posts about her, I hope mine was included? I know that all of us here in blogland love Renee, and I know she feels our love. A miracle, yes, that would be so wonderful, but really I just want her pain to end.
    Love you.
    xoxox

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  22. You are so thoughtful kj. I'm sure that this will be so appreciated by the family.x

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  23. You are beautiful for doing this. You truly are standing guard over our sweet beautiful Renee.
    I miss her so much.
    I feel like I am just holding my breath and waiting to hear the beating of her wings.
    <3
    xxm

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  24. sometimes I wonder why people are put into our path in life and how easy it would be to swerve around them. Renee is one of those people you meet who is simply standing there in your path with her arms open and you stop and think..hey...do I want this? do I need this potential pain...should I swerve?...right before you walk into her loving embrace and get a nice smoochy kiss. She's been a test of all of our humanity as she never treated herself as an angel, just a fun loving, hell-raising, totally sympathetic lady. I adore her, look up to her, and wish like hell that a magic wand would be waved and BOOF - no more cancer - just go on enjoying life.
    oh well,

    thanks KJ, this was a lovely post

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  25. Teachers walk among us and if we are lucky enough, we get to have them for a while. Renee made it so easy to know her. She loves and is loved by everyone who crosses her path. She reaches out and we are all a family. That sounds so simple for such an amazing and generous act - and truly astonishing for someone whom we've never met.

    Miracles do exist - one of them is called Renee.

    Thanks, dear Karen, for all the love. You are a gatherer and a caretaker. It is noticed and appreciated, wonderful friend.

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  26. A lovely post, kj. I'm so glad you spoke with Renee at Christmas and that you spoke about Hospice, an organization dear to my heart.

    Take good care of yourself.

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  27. kj, this is so beautiful, what a wonderful gift for Renee's family. I pray that she isn't suffering while she's awake. It's so hard to understand why things like this happen to such incredible people who give so much of themselves to the world - I guess it's something we'll never understand until it's our turn to make our journey to the other world.

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  28. I'm glad for the news as I keep visiting her blog in vain for updates. Say, KJ, you haven't been around to my blog for so long that I'll bet you don't even remember who I am.

    Bad KJ. Bad, bad KJ. Very bad KJ. I'm going to sick Emily on KJ. Go Emily, go!

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  29. lo, renee's influence is far and wide and varied and incredible. &hearts

    julie, i imagine your sadness must cut right into your heart, since you've painted renee's whole family. their energy must be in your veins, at least i would think so. we will get through this, but what a loss...xoxox

    eloh, ha, i know what you mean. we didn't expect to fall in love and then have to let go, did we? but renee knows what she is teaching us. i think we can trust her. ♥

    purestgreen, we are on vigil. to me this is the hardest part of blogging. it is good we can reach out to one another but damn damn. xoxoxo

    deb, i like these images. i wonder what and when and if we really will know. it is easy to know how much you miss renee, you know i stand beside you. xoxxoxo

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  30. KJ, I was really hoping that somehow, someone was reading our comments to Renee. I know when I was in the hospital not long ago to have the first tumor removed from my liver, it really helped having someone read me comments from my blog of those who cared.

    I love her and miss her so much!

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  31. thank you marie. you and i have crossed paths because of renee and i am grateful for that. ♥

    big love to you too ribbon. i am SO glad to know you are there. ♥

    ah angela, you've said this perfectly. but what could we have said one more time that we have not told renee a hundred times before? all that love is inside her and it will stay there. i believe that. angela, my wonderful heart sister: friends forever and together strong.

    lori, tsup. you are a special person too.

    pam, you express your feelings just fine. you really do. i am glad we've met pam. i thank renee for that. i think we are going to have some fun together xoxo

    annie, i only sent 6 or 7 posts so as not to overwhelm angelique. i'm pretty sure yours was included in the first batch, but i plan to send more next week. i am thinking of putting a chapbook together of our loving tributes and essays about renee.... xoxox

    caroline, i've missed you and i'm glad you're back. ♥

    sweetsweetmango, i look to you to help me understand this, michelle. i know you will, and together we grieve. like you i miss renee terribly. xoxox

    i know mim, i know you thought about it before you let yourself come to know and love renee and accept her gifts back to you. i think it is worth it, mim. i don't think either of us will ever regret it. ♥

    thank you linda, and thank you for your loving and wise support and sharing to renee in these last months. yes, we are family in some way. i think all of us feel that. xoxo

    marion, the angels of hospice. ♥ thank you for your friendship marion. you are a special friend and i cherish it.

    susan, thank you. it seems we learn to accept what we know and what we don't know. one thing we do know, made crystal clear by renee, is that love matters. xoxox

    snow, you know what? this is true: your writing is so special to me that i can't bring myself to read or skim it, so i wait for a time i can linger and then i get behind. i Promise i will be by soon to indulge myself. xoxoxo

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  32. dear sophia, i hope that there will be moments when angelique will read renee can hear and feel our love for her. i miss her too, sophia. sometimes it hurts more than i can express. ♥

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  33. What a loving way to reach out to Renee and I hope bring comfort to her family.

    On days when I ask myself why I blog, I just think of Renee and all her amazing supporters. What a community that has gathered around her. Such magnificent expressions of love in this virtual world.

    Thank you for pulling so many of the tender posts together here for us to read. If her children, see your post, it will be easier for them to share it all with dear Renee.

    May Renee be free from suffering. May she know how much she is loved.

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  34. you are all loving and wonderful friends. she is with you.

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  35. Thanks so much for posting this Kj~

    I've been consumed with thoughts about how Renee is doing...

    I love the quotes you put here... I loved reading each one.

    Is there a way I could get Angelica's email so I can write her?

    I love you Kj your an angel here on earth as well.
    Pattee

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  36. That was amazing. I quess Ive just been trying to keep my wall up...but deep inside Im thinking "Lovey what will I do without you and our talks?"...Staying distracted.

    Love ya KJ...xoxooxxo

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